The thing with guilt is that it has a tendency to paralyze you,
leaving you zero options to move toward taking action.
Let’s say you have a $500 purse that you don’t use nor like anymore.
Maybe you bought it after two glasses of red wine and it seemed like a good idea at the time.
Hey, I don’t judge.
I know how much prettier things can look after a few sips of wine.
You feel guilty that you have spent that much money on something that just sits there in the darkness, collecting dust.
And then you go on and tell me it was expensive so you better hold onto it.
If money is energy, and knowing how much energy this purse is taking up in your psyche, how
expensive do you think this purse is now, after all this time?
So the sooner you let go of it, the cheaper the purse.
2. Unfinished business
When you dig deep into your filing cabinets, you find all sorts of things.
Like, notes from unfinished courses, projects and movie scripts. (Trust me, I know.)
It hurts to face the truth.
There’s at least two approaches you can take here.
You can say to yourself:
1. “I procrastinate and I never finish anything” – which then leads to negative self-talk:
“I’m a bad person”
2. “I’m a finisher” – which then leads to positive self-talk:
“Those things didn’t matter enough. What I’m doing now, does.”
The first approach makes it easier to avoid the whole damn thing because who wants to feel shitty about oneself.
Not me, not you. Nobody.
The latter builds confidence in your ability to take care of things that matter and this momentum translates to other things in your life, too, like doing your taxes, ability to communicate about hard stuff and self-care.
There's a benefit to having clutter which is you get to keep the story that your possessions have convinced you of.
And that’s convenient because it does not require change.
Michael Meade says “Many come to prefer a pain that they know to a birth that they can’t control.”
But the beauty of choosing birth over pain is that you get a second chance.
You get to grow out of your old narrative that most likely was never even yours.
You become the person you always knew you are,
beneath the pile of laundry and years worth of junk mail.
The thing is you are not here to reinvent yourself.
There’s nothing to reinvent.
You are already a MASTERPIECE.
Ready to be uncovered.
So, let’s summarize:
1. Guilt is never a good enough reason to hold onto anything.
If it’s guilt about money, remember that some things are more expensive if you keep them. If it’s guilt about throwing out pictures or letters, remember that the most important memories are held in the heart, not in the cupboards.
2. When you find evidence of all the things that you started but never finished, don’t let this be one of them.
You have moved on from those projects vibrationally.
So have a grieving ritual.
This way you move that stagnant energy and make room for something new, something exciting and something more aligned.
You shift from goals to identity. You no longer say: “I’m trying to declutter.” Instead, you say: “I’m not a collector.” Or, “I’m a finisher.”
3. When you hide your possessions in a basement, in an attic or in a garage, you also hide an aspect of yourself.
What part of you is ready to be activated?
What art form, craft or creative force is waiting to be expressed through you?
Open the flood gates.
Block a day in your calendar, make a thermos full of your favorite hot drink, get your
playlist going and just go after it.
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