Speak Up, Woman!

You can speak well if your tongue can deliver the message of your heart.-John Ford Quotes

The right word may be effective, but no word was ever as effective as a rightly timed pause.-Mark Twain

According to most studies, people’s number one fear is public speaking. Number two is death. Death is number two. Does that sound right? This means to the average person, if you go to a funeral, you’re better off in the casket than doing the eulogy.-Jerry Seinfeld

There are only two types of speakers in the world. 1. The nervous and 2. Liars.- Mark Twain

The human brain starts working the moment you are born and never stops until you stand up to speak in public.- George Jessel

I have mastered a lot of my fears, but one remains: public speaking.

I searched for quotes about public speaking online, and it seems like I’m not alone. 

As a young girl, I was very outspoken – so much so,
that teachers used to ask me to leave the classroom
because I was disturbing others by always talking to someone next to me.

But when it was my turn to get up there in front of the group
and actually take to the stage and say what I wanted to say,
I froze. My heart skipped beats. My arm pits were dripping.

I became the deer in the headlights.

I’m still that deer in the headlights.

It is not because I am living in a foreign country
and speaking a foreign language.

It is not because I have nothing to say.

It is not because I don’t have what it takes to be a public speaker.

It is, I think, because I still somehow consider
myself (my fears) more important
than the message I so desperately want to deliver.

It is because I’m still standing on my own way,
allowing the little me (self) to bark at the door like a little Chihuahua
when the larger me (Self) wants to knock and kick and bang at the door.

They say that Chihuahuas tend to be good watch dogs,
but tend to take their job a bit too far.

Similarly, my ego (for lack of a better term), 
the part of me that sees myself separate from the other,
is needed when there is a real danger,
but because that is rarely the case,
it still wants to take its job too seriously.

So I go a bit too far and keep myself trapped. Protected. Safe. Small. Tiny.

There is a performer in me, for sure.
I’m an Aries, after all.

But that’s the thing: Public speaking, to me, isn’t about performing.
It is not acting. It is not being a stripper and putting on a show.
That isn’t who I truly am.

Public speaking is about being me.
It’s about being raw, vulnerable and authentic.
In all its glory and realness.

It is about trusting the outer world to be safe.

It is about trusting that the bridge between
my heart and throat is strong enough to
carry the love, the truth and the beauty that it holds.

It is about expressing my purity, my revolution,
and my innate gifts, values and innocence.

I’m getting closer. I’m almost there.

And when almost is no longer good enough,
there is always support.

There are movers and shakers out there
who are ready to give their all, 100% of themselves, to help me
get over this old, dusty, useless fear.

One of them is KC Baker.

KC Baker is a brilliant, expressive woman
who delivers her message with a full heart and soft, transparent power.

I am blessed to know and have a woman like her in my community.

Today, she is releasing her free video series that will help anyone transform their fear of public speaking,
and learn to write and deliver the talk they were born to give.

KC Baker has a shift in perspective on the fear of public speaking that is so unique and totally freeing.

Watch this short video she just released on what the truth of this “fear” of public speaking is.

Whether you want to get out there and speak,
or you’ve been doing it for years and the nervousness still gets to you,
this is so worth a watch.

The idea she presents here can really set you free to love public speaking.
She’s a trainer to some big time speakers and is also a speechwriter for
well-known authors, CEOs, etc, so she knows her stuff.

Watch it and then get out there and speak up about your message and your business!
Here’s the link again to her video, How to Shift from Fear to Grace in Public Speaking.

(Yes, I’m an affiliate for her programs. When you use this link to sign up to her program, I get a commission. But trust me, I would support her this way if I wasn’t getting a penny, because she is making a difference that will leave this world a more beautiful and healthy place.)

I hear my inner Chihuahua getting restless.
She knows her time is up.